Judgement and Desire Cannot Live In The Same Space

April_post2What is your relationship with what you desire?  Are you in a state of joyful expectancy and fulfillment?

If you’re not enjoying your desires, it’s usually because you have some kind of judgement on them. 

Here are some of the judgements I’m familiar with:

• It’s not OK for me to want that.

• That’s too expensive.

• I’ll never be able to…..

• It’ll take me forever to get that done!

• I don’t deserve it.

If any of these judgments come up for you when you ponder your desires, you need to become more like a little child.  A baby doesn’t spin into mental judgments when she wants something.  She just wants it!  She allows herself to have the feeling of DESIRE! 

Have you ever watched a baby determined to master a new skill?  Maybe she wanted to sit, to crawl, to walk, or to pull herself up to the window so she can look out at the world. 

Her DESIRE is the very energy that fueled her action!

In how many ways can you be more like that baby?  If you want a de-cluttered, organized home, are you willing to keep trying, to keep falling down and getting back up again?  Are you willing to ask for any support you need so that you can master the new skills that will give you your goal?

You’re Stuck In A Rut. Now What?

linda-clean-sweepWe recently held a FREE audio training for A Clean Sweep: 5 Ways To Partner Your Home and Life Purpose and wanted to follow up with a few suggestions on simple ways you can start where you are with clearing your clutter.

If you feel really stuck, and can’t seem to get traction on clearing your clutter, here’s a tip:

Start your Clean Sweep in an area where you can experience immediate success.  Pick a small area, that you can complete within 30 to 60 minutes.  Here are some ideas:

  • one area of the kitchen counter
  • your medicine cabinet
  • your spice cabinet or drawer
  • your sock drawer
  • one shelf in the laundry room

Then, after several small projects like this are complete, and you feel a sense of pride and accomplishment, you might want to tackle a larger area that feels “doable” in a weekend. 

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Connecting The Dots: The Relationship Between Clutter and Emotion

itsnotthestuff_postIt’s more than just “the stuff” that’s the problem

If you have physical clutter in your home, you’ve probably experienced what I call “mental clutter.”  You’re so distracted by the piles, especially when you can’t find what you need, that it’s harder to focus and get things done.  

 

You may also have what I call “emotional clutter.”  You might feel shame, sadness, or depression because the rooms you live in don’t reflect your ideal.  These emotions sometimes correspond to negative emotions you felt during childhood.    

 

Here’s the truth:  physical, mental, and emotional clutter go together.  

 

And, their relationship may not be what you think.  Most people assume that they feel the shame and hold the limiting beliefs BECAUSE of the clutter.  But, it’s more complex than that.  

 

As Within, So Without

You see, the reverse is also true:  we have clutter because we’re holding onto limiting beliefs and negative emotions.  

 

In ADDITION to CAUSING mental and emotional “clutter,” the physical clutter is a mirror for that inner stuff we’re holding onto that isn’t serving us.  It’s a white flag waving, calling our attention to something that needs to be integrated and healed within.

 

What if the Clutter is Serving You, Somehow?

What if the clutter in your home is like a cold, trying to alert you, to motivate you to better self care?  

 

Experience teaches us that if we push our bodies too hard, ignoring it’s cries for help, the physical symptoms will intensify and become more serious. 

 

Perhaps the clutter in your home is trying to get your attention in a similar way.  

 

In my experience, it’s WAY harder to get rid of the physical clutter until you become aware that it’s trying to serve a powerful purpose for you.

 

My clients who are ready and willing to look squarely at this cause/effect and effect/cause between inner and outer clutter ALWAYS get their de-cluttering done faster, with more ease and grace.

 

What might your clutter be trying to get you to see? Tell us in the comment below or share your thoughts with us on our Transforming Space Transforming Self Facebook Page.

 

Is Your Overwhelm In Overdrive?

The Key To De-Cluttering Your NEUROLOGICAL OVERWHELM

Neurological Overwhelm is a term that my Successions Coach Michael Scimeca uses to describe the condition in which the sensory input in our environment exceeds our ability to process it. 

If you live in a cluttered home, your environment may be keeping you in neurological overwhelm, in a state of hyper-alert.  Could the current condition of your home actually be creating subliminal anxiety and stress for you? 

If yes, then you may want to make de-cluttering and organizing a priority!  Start today, by choosing one small area of your home that bothers you, and clean and tidy it up as much of the area as possible in an hour.  Then, each time you are in that room, deliberately bring your attention to the area that you worked on.  Celebrate how well it now functions and feels.  Celebrate how much better you now function and feel in that area!

If you'd like support in de-cluttering your home then I invite you to join us for our Mess To Success course that starts March 24th.  Together we'll move through the overwhelm of the mental and physical clutter that is keeping you from success.  You can review the program details here >>> http://www.transformingspace.com/messtosuccess 

Get Started In 3 Easy Steps: Decluttering Paper

In any place we begin to organize we start with 3 easy steps.

EASY SORT PAPER PROCESS STEPS:

1. Begin the Easy Sort by picking up each piece of paper and deciding if you will:

  • Toss (into the trash)
  • Recycle (recycle bin or donate boxes/bags)
  • Shred (for anything with account numbers or confidential info on it)
  • Keep (decide which of your categories it should go in)

2. Continue until the area you have chosen is clutter-free.
3. Clean surfaces as you go.

Try these 3 easy steps in any area of your home or workspace and tell us in the comments below or over on our Transforming Space Transforming Self Facebook page how they worked for you.

Watch for more next week and we’ll follow up with what to do after the easy sort process.

Day-5: Does It Pass The ClothesTest?

Day-5: “Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep: 5-Day Challenge

old and stained pjs

I always edit my clothes each spring and fall.

In another month, when the weather warms, I’ll clean and store my lovely winter sweaters, scarfs, socks, pants. Only the dressy ones will stay on their hangers, moved to the guest bedroom closet. Most will go in plastic bins on the top shelf of our closet. Any of my winter clothes I haven’t worn this year will be donated. (Because, as my life changes, my clothing does too!)

And out of the bins will come all my lovely warm weather clothing! As I unpack my summer tops and sandals, I check to ensure that everything passes my Clothing Test:

Is it comfortable (I prefer natural fibers)?

Is it a color that looks good on me?

Does it flatter me?

Does it make my heart sing?

So, when I did a Clean Sweep of my clothes this week, I only had two pajama tops to release. I love them both: they both pass my comfort and color tests, but one had lost its shape and the other had a tiny stain. So… out they go.

It feels so good to release what we are tolerating! Do you have any clothing in your closet or dresser that you are tolerating something about? If yes, I challenge you to let it go! (Please donate it, if someone else might get some use out of it.)

Are your drawers and closets passing the test?  Share your thoughts with us below or on our Transforming Self Transforming Space Page here and if you want to join the challenge you can do so by clicking here.

Day-4: What You Tolerate Becomes Your Standard

Day-4: “Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep: 5-Day Challenge

glassware

During my Clean Sweep, I began to notice some little things I was tolerating. One of them was the hard water stains on our old glassware. I tried everything possible to remove the stains, to no avail. So I purchased some lovely new ones and released the old ones.

What are you tolerating? Are you aware of how your tolerations are lowering your mood and energy level? What are you willing to do, today, about one of your tolerations?

Share your thoughts with us below or on our Transforming Self Transforming Space Page here and if you want to join the challenge you can do so by clicking here.

 

Day-3: Are The Changes You Make Inspiring Others?

Day-3: “Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep: 5-Day Challenge

An Old PhoneMy Clean Sweeping inspired my husband to let go of this phone he no longer uses.  If you live with a loved one, I’m curious to know if your de-cluttering efforts are inspiring them.

 

It’s never a good idea to scold or shame our housemates into doing things our way.  In my Mess to Success program, I teach the most effective ways to align on de-cluttering with those you live with.  For now, be willing to let your de-cluttering inspire those around you!

 

Who’s been inspired by your de-cluttering? Share your thoughts with us below or on our Transforming Self Transforming Space Page here and if you want to join the challenge you can do so by clicking here.

 

Day-2: How Many Containers Do You Need?

Day-2: “Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep: 5-Day Challenge

photo[1]Yesterday, I did a Clean Sweep of our kitchen and found some BPA plastic bottles, old pillboxes, and worn out plastic measuring spoons.  Out they go… into the recycle bin!

 I just love containers, of all kinds.  Maybe you do, too.
  • Glass jars and pyrex bowls for storing soups or leftovers in the fridge.
  • Crystal vases for fresh flowers.
  • Plastic and paper grocery store bags, for giving items away.
  • Water bottles and thermoses.
 The thing is, empty containers can easily fill up our drawers and cupboards.  So, I had to learn how many I actually needed.
  • There’s just two of us in this empty nest now; I don’t need more than 5 storage bowls for leftovers.  I can recycle some of those glass jars (keeping the ones I’ll use for gifts of my homemade soup or granola in the cupboard over the fridge).
  • Years ago, I edited my collection of vases, gave half of them away and only saved the best.  Since our kitchen space is limited, I store them down the hall on the bottom shelf of a cabinet.
  • I allotted a tiny space for plastic and paper bags, and recycle any more than the space allows.
  • This year, I edited our collection of water bottles, giving away the BPA plastic ones, and thermos, giving away all but the stainless steel.
Here’s a Truth: we can’t say YES to what we DO want until we say NO to what we DON’T want.  We can’t say yes to a lovely spacious kitchen until we say say no to all excess.
Yes, I love containers.  No, I don’t want them overflowing my drawers and cupboards and ruining my sense of peace.  So I learned what I actually needed and taught myself to limit the ones I allow in my space.

 

And the good news: When we set boundaries for our stuff, it’s easier to set boundaries with our time, our attention, our money, our energy.  It’s easier to manage our life!

 

How are you setting boundraries?  Share your thoughts with us below or on our Transforming Self Transforming Space Page here and if you want to join the challenge you can do so by clicking here.

 

Day-1: Expired Not Desired

Day-1: “Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep: 5-Day Challenge

Tylenol BottleI decided to start my Clean Sweep with something simple: our Medicine Cabinet, which we actually keep on a turntable on a kitchen cupboard shelf.

I found only this one bottle of Children’s Tylenol that had expired. So, out it goes!

While I was at it, I cleaned and straightened up the whole cupboard. It only took a few more minutes and makes me smile when I open the cupboard doors.

Is there anything in your life that is expired?  Share your thoughts with us below or on our Transforming Self Transforming Space Page here and if you want to join the challenge you can do so by clicking here.