Are You a StoryKeeper?

Are you a Story Keeper?

Are you a keeper of stories?  When you look around your home, do you see evidence of your own life story and the stories of your parents, siblings, ancestors?  Some homes are filled with heirloom furniture, family photos, memorabilia.

Native Americans called those who kept the stories of their families “Rock People.”  The “medicine” or gift of the rocks is to hold the record, the geology, of the earth.  Those of us who have this gift are able to connect the hearts of the children to the mothers and fathers, through the stories of our memories.

Some of us “Rock People” are so sentimental that our homes display treasures from each loved one and every trip we’ve taken, and for every item we hold a memory, a story, in our hearts.  I have rocks and shells from all over the world on our windowsills and altars, and our home holds precious photos of family.

On my Ireland pilgrimage last June I visited many ancient sacred sites, including The City, a place of continuous worship of the divine feminine for over 6.000 years.  Our group of 10 women entered the sacred site mindfully, after kneeling in prayer at the well just outside the portal entrance stones.  In single file, we slowly and silently walked the inside perimeter of the walled enclosure.  Then our guide, Amantha Murphy, asked us each to wander the land, to feel what we were able to feel of its past and to find an area where we felt comfortable and commune with it.

Deep quiet filled me as I walked that precious land.  I felt drawn to a megalithic stone, somehow brought from a great distance away and placed near the center of the enclosure by ancient people.  I walked around this weathered old stone, then placed my hands on it, feeling love course into my body.  Sitting on the ground, I leaned back into the stone and felt as if all my troubles were melting away.  Amantha called the other women over to this stone and told us “This stone is known as the StoryKeeper.  If there are any stories you are holding that bring you sorrow, tell them to her.  Give your stories to her and she will keep them for you so you don’t have to carry them any longer.”

melody-on-stoneI know it sounds crazy, but I did.  After the other women left, I whispered all my grief and loss, all the sorrows of my mother and grandmothers, my sisters, my friends, my clients.  I felt as if sorrow for all women everywhere, and all of mankind, was pouring out of me into the sacred container of this powerful rock.  And then, I was empty.

And into the space inside me where the sorrow had been, peace flowed.  The deepest peace I’ve ever felt.  I can feel it inside me still.

familyaltarThis experience has inspired me to scan my home for my stories, and to creating healing altars that allow me to integrate and release any stuck emotions.  (An altar is any item or group of items that raises or alters your mood and energy level.)

Here’s a photo of my Family Altar.  Behind these photos are my healing intentions for those relationships.

What if an area in your home could serve as your StoryKeeper?  What if you could place items there in a way that would allow you to integrate your losses?  When fully felt, grief transforms into joy.  And that joy becomes our fuel, and we have the energy to move our lives forward.

Let me know if this article was helpful to you and if you’d like more ideas about dealing with memorabilia.  (As a “Rock Person,” I have more than most… and I’m finally ready to edit my collection!)

 

Sacred Space

I believe one of the most powerful actions a woman can take is to create a sanctuary in her own home. 

No matter how small her home is, no matter how many kids and animals live with her, no matter how her partner feels about it, if she will claim a room—or a corner of a room—for her very own, that one action will put her on a path to claiming sovereignty in her life.

How can a woman open the door to that power?

  1. Claim a space in your home that will be a sacred space, just for you
  2. Set it up to serve a purpose that will refuel you (meditation, yoga, dance, reading, writing, art)
  3. Decorate it with colors, textures, furnishings you love
  4. Spend time there, feeling nourished by the space you’ve created
  5. Allow your attention to dwell on your “sanctuary” when you are tempted to notice things about your home or life that aren’t yet ideal

What one thing refules you when your tank is on empty? Tell us in the comments below or share with us on our Transforming Space Transforming Self Facebook page.

“Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep: 5 Day Challenge Contest Details

What are you tolerating in your home that’s either driving you nuts or slowly draining your energy?  Thomas Leonard, the father of coaching, believed that the piles of clutter and lack of organization may be affecting you more than you realize.

Every little thing in your life matters.  And when you add up a bunch of little things that are not quite right, they weigh you down and keep you stuck just like an anchor does for a boat.

With just a small investment in time and awareness to notice and clean up what you are tolerating, you will experience an immediate boost in your energy and results. When you pull the anchor up out of the water, the boat can go a LOT faster.

~Thomas Leonard

In just a month or two in the northern hemisphere, spring will arrive.  Spring is a time of new beginnings.  But you won’t be able to completely harness the fresh newness of spring if your home is weighed down with items you neither use nor love, or if your home isn’t organized in a way that works for you.

SO, I created A Clean Sweep training (next Sunday at 8pm Eastern—and it’s FREE) to make your de-cluttering and organizing as EASY as possible!   To register click the image below or visit our home page at http://transformingspace.com for more details.

A Clean Sweep

And to jump start your own clean sweep, and to make the process as FUN as possible, I’ve created a “Start Where You Are” Clean Sweep 5-Day Challenge on our Transforming Space Transforming Self Facebook Page.

5 Day Facebook Contest Details

Each day you will have the opportunity to “Start Where You Are” and release ONE thing you no longer need.  And, yes, I’m going to share in the joy (and challenges) that releasing can bring, so I’ll be participating too.  Each day this week I will be posting a picture of one thing I am releasing, and why I’ve decided to let it go, and what releasing that item is creating space for in my life.

To CELEBRATE all of you who enter the contest, I will be giving away  a one hour Professional Organizing or Feng Shui session, to help you turn your home or workspace into a goal-oriented streamlined, serene sanctuary.  The winner will also receive a combo pack of my two favorite essential oil blends for clients who are organizing:

  • Oola Grow (which increases focus in ways that help you reach your mental, emotional and spiritual potential)
  • Valor (which enhances balance, courage, strength, and self mastery)

So if it is time for you to release the “old” and Clean Sweep your life, then please join the FUN on the Transforming Space Transforming Self Facebook Page for our 5-Day challenge.

And be sure to join us for the FREE Clean Sweep Training on Sunday March 9th when we will be announcing the winner.

Enter the contest at: https://www.facebook.com/TransformingSpaceTransformingSelf/app_451684954848385

OR, just register for the Clean Sweep Training by clicking the link below or visiting our home page at http://transformingspace.com.

 A Clean Sweep

*NOTE: your presence on the call is not required to win the prize.  The winner will be notified if present on the call or via email afterwards.  If you cannot attend the call, you will receive the replay.

Announcement: The Start Where You Are “Clean Sweep” 5 Day Challenge Starts on Monday 3/3

The Start Where You Are "Clean Sweep" 5 Day ChallengeIt’s time to Clean Sweep our homes and our hearts! To celebrate our upcoming FREE Clean Sweep tele-course on 3/9/14 we will be celebrating with a Start Where Your Are 5 Day “Clean Sweep” Challenge contest on Facebook.  The winner will receive a one hour professional organizing or Feng Shui session with holistic organizer Melody LeBaron, to help you turn your home or workspace into a goal-oriented streamlined, serene sanctuary.  The winner will also receive a gift bag that includes two of Melody’s favorite essential oil blends: Oola Grow (which increases focus in ways that help you reach your mental, emotional and spiritual potential) and Valor (which enhances balance, courage, strength, and self mastery). It all begins on 3/3/14 and together we’ll Start Where You Are.

Want to lose weight or improve your health?

Are you trying to lose weight or improve your health? Did you know your home can help you achieve your goals? Let me introduce you to Gua 5 from the Feng Shui Bagua, the center of your home. It represents Health and Unity. It’s JOB is to support you so that this is true for you:
I embody vibrant good health.
I radiate energy and vitality.
I feel centered, grounded, and “on my right path” in life.
My life demonstrates unity of body/mind/spirit, and unity in all my relationships.

Bagua

To do it’s job, it needs to be activated. How? 
When we look at the  Feng Shui Bagua, we see that the center of our homes represents Health  and Unity. Health and Unity of body/mind/spirit…and Health and Unity in our relationships.
Here are 5 ideas to support this 5 Gua (area of the Bagua), so that it can support your health and unity:


  1. Make sure the center of your home, and the center of each room, is clear and uncluttered. Clutter in the center of your space will adversely affect your health and relationships.
  2. Use the earth element to activate the 5 Health/Unity Gua:
    • use gold, yellow, and earth tones
    • use squares, or horizontal rectangles (a plush sofa is perfect)
    • accessorize with landscapes or photos of your favorite nature scenes
    • add a healthy plant, anything clay or ceramic, a bowl of fresh fruit
    • place shells, rocks, crystals, anything from Mother Earth
  3. Decorate with a balance of yin (soft items) and yang (hard items).
  4. The center of your home is a great place for a seasonal altar that connects you to the natural rythms of Mother Earth.
  5. You can write or print out your health goals and post them in this area of your home. I print our goals out, decorate it with a few images or words cut out of magazines, slide it into a plastic sleeve, and post it inside a door in the  center of our home. Our goals are not on public display–but we see them whenever we open the pantry door!

How YOU Can Receive Support in 2012

Receiving Support is partaking in the flow of Life. Before we were born, as we grew in our mother’s womb, we received all the nutrients, warmth, and support that we needed–without efforting to make it happen.

But as children, many were indoctrinated to believe we won’t receive the support we need–or that we’ll have to DO so much to get it that it won’t be worth the effort. These very beliefs impede our progress and we do well to release them and actively cultivate being in what I call “Receive Mode.”

To be in “Receive Mode,” we must:

  1. know what we need
  2. acknowledge what we need in ways that activate both hemispheres of our brains
  3. ask for what we need
  4. create space (in our minds and hearts and our schedule) to receive the support
  5. give gratitude for all we’ve received
  6. pay it forward… share with others and give what we’ve got!

Number 2 is crucial. Acknowledge what we need in ways that activate both hemispheres of our brains. You see, if we stay in left-brain thinking mode, there is no way we’ll be able to create anything different than what we’re now experiencing!

Einstein said “A problem cannot be solved at the level it was created.” In order to receive the support (seen and unseen, tangible and intangible) we need to up-level our lives, we must activate our right-brain capacities:

  • our imagination — to create the idea of what we want and the belief it can happen
  • our will — to take the leaps of faith that will be required
  • our tenacity and faith — to overcome discouragement
  • our ability to FEEL our connection to the Divine, to all of Life — to receive guidance from our intuition, to notice and say YES to the opportunities flowing our way

SO, how do we activate our right brain?

With images that tell the story we want to create. That’s why, every January I create a Vision Map of what I want to create in the coming year. I’ve used many different formats but the one that works the best for me is to use the Feng Shui Bagua as a template.

The Bagua is an energy grid, or map, that depicts the 9 staging areas of life. When all 9 areas are activated, we find ourselves in the flow of abundance and joy. The Bagua can be superimposed over the floor plan of your home, your workplace, your desk, your mirror. And it works as a great template for a Vision Map. After aligning with my husband Ed and making our list of goals, I sorted them into these 9 areas:

Bagua

This year I decided to use blue foam poster board. I knew I’d want to put our Vision Map in the Abundance area of our home, to hold the frequency of what we’ll be creating, and in this home, our Abundance area is our laundry room.

So I had to trim the poster board so it would fit nicely on the shelf. Then I measured and scored it so that the sides would fold in, so it would stand on it’s own.

Then, I gathered images and words that represent our goals for the year.

I took some time to look over our 2012 Plan and feel WHY we really want to create our goals. What is the end result we want to be experiencing? Then I allowed my intuition to guide me as I placed the images and words where I felt they belonged.

This is what our 2012 Vision Map looks like:

 

The Partnership area is an Earth element, so the image I chose is of my husband Ed and me in nature (a photo taken on one of our first trips together while we were dating, sitting on a tree very special to me):

 We have an image of childlike joy and wonder in the Children/ Projects/Creativity area:

In our Helpful Friends/Travel area (which is a Metal element), we used images of an (metallic) angel and a map:

These are the images (and shells) I used for the Water element area of Career/Life Path. They reflect our belief that our work in the world is aligned with our Soul’s purpose, and brings a flow of abundance to us and to those we work with:

These words and the Energy stone anchor our (Earth element) Health/Unity goals:

This is a bit hard to see. It’s a lovely image of a star-studded night sky with the words “The Power of One… lit from within” which illuminates our Fame/Reputation goals:

 Our Abundance/Prosperity (wood element) goals are illustrated with the word “Bountiful Dreams Coming True” glued over images that represent joy and abundance to us:

 For our Family/Community area (wood element), a lovely flower, an image of two sisters and the words “make once-in-a-lifetime into once-a-year” anchor our intention to host another a.m.a.z.i.n.g. family reunion again this year:

 For Knowledge/Wisdom/Self Improvement, we used an image that represents peace, centeredness, strength, and discipline:

If you decide to create your own 2012 Vision Map, I recommend you put it in the Abundance corner of your home. That’s the area we want to activate with our goals. For those of you who want to use this idea in your workspace, here is a Bagua Vision Map I’ve created on the wall in my office:

I used heavy brown wrapping paper tacked to the wall as the background. I change the images to reflect my monthly goals (except for the 2012 vision statement for my business in the center –that will stay all year). I love walking into my office and seeing the bright creative images that are activating my right-brain abilities to receive all the support I need to make my goals my new reality!

Want to Improve Your Relationships?

Growing up the oldest of 7 children, I know how feelings of separation can lead to frustration and anger–and that leaves an upsetting vibe in the space you live and work in. How would you like to create a stronger connection in all your relationships?

It’s easy–just follow my 5 step method: 

STEP 1:
Start by partnering with the space you live and work in! The ancient technology of Feng Shui gives us the Bagua, an energy map that shows us where in our space we can activate certain aspects of our lives. As you stand in the doorway of your home or workspace, looking in, the room in the far right corner is your Relationship area.

  • At home, the far right corner affects your love and family relationships.
  • At work, the far right corner affects your relationship with your clients and your team

Go to that area of your space, and feel what it feels like there. Clear any clutter, clean it up at bit, the way you would if a beloved guest was coming.

STEP 2:
The next step is to partner with your desires. So what is it that you would LIKE to experience in your relationships this holiday? Most of us are good at knowing what we are missing… but what is it that you choose to create? Let yourself FEEL what it is that you prefer. Get into the BodySense of enjoying that! Now, write down an intention that expresses what you prefer to create. For example: “Our love creates a strong happy family.” “Our clients are thrilled with our service and refer their friends.”

STEP 3:
Create an altar that anchors your intentions for your relationships. An altar is any grouping of items that alters the way you think or feel. You can use photos, written intentions, artwork, anything that represents to you what you prefer to experience in your relationships. For example, in the Relationship area of our home right now, I have our wedding album, surrounded by votive candles — one for each one of our children and grandchildren. I imagine each member of our family warmed by the love Ed and I feel for each other. In my workspace Relationship area, I display cards and photos from grateful clients.

STEP 4:
Each time you enter the Relationship area, allow yourself to FEEL the JOY of creating what you prefer! It may not be your reality yet, and you may be experiencing a dissonance between what you have now and what you want. That’s OK… that means you are alive and growing! Let yourself feel whatever it is you feel now, and keep bringing your attention back to what you choose. Feel the joy of the future version of reality you are creating! Release any attachment to when/how it shows up. Just keep feelin’ the love whenever you look at your altar!

STEP 5:
Update your altars frequently so they don’t get stale. Your altars need to grow and change as you do! Just as our clothes change with the seasons, our altars need to be freshened to reflect the goals we are moving toward.

Your Home is Alive!

Many clients are surprised when I tell them that their home is alive.  That idea feels weird to most westerners.  But to those from eastern cultures, and to native peoples all over the world, that belief supports–and is supported by–an awarenss that all of Nature is alive and intelligent–and wants to partner with us.

If I held up my hand in any western class, fingers outstretched, and asked “How many items do you see?” what do you think the response would be?

Right!  5 fingers or 1 hand.

But if I held up that same outstretched hand in any eastern class and asked “How many items do you see?” the answer would be 9 items.

5 fingers–and the 4 spaces between them.

You see, other cultures have been trained from birth to recognize what our scientists are now discovering: Space is Alive.  And Space is Intelligent.  And, with that belief, they are able to see and experience the spaces between items in a way we westerns haven’t.

If you are having trouble with these ideas, that’s understandable.  Western culture uses dominator language to express relationship with space/nature.  We have a one-up/one-down relationship with space: we assume that as intelligent humans, our role is to dominate, to be stewards over the land.

Consider how that paradigm will produce a different experience that the following beliefs:

  • Nature is Alive
  • Nature is Intelligent
  • Nature wants to Partner with Us
  • Space is Alive
  • Space is Intelligent
  • Space wants to Partner with Us
  • Every form of Life has its gift to give
  • The elements that make up our bodies also make up the bodies of our homes–there is Intelligence singing through everything created: human, plant, animal, nature, man-made
  • Everything created (even those things created by man) wants to fulfill the measure of its creation
  • Each Home we’ve lived in has had an effect on us
  • we’ve had an effect on each Home we’ve lived in
  • the Home we now live in has unique gifts to give us (and challenges to offer us)

Your Home wants to fulfill the measure of its creation: it offers more than shelter, it wants to support you to live your best life

You may own the land you live on and the home you live in.  But I’m going to ask you to go beyond the “I own” belief and try on some new ones.

Say the following out loud, and really feel what happens inside you as you do:

  • “I partner with this Land and this Home.”
  • “This Land and this Home want to shelter and support me.”
  • “This Land and this Home have gifts and opportunities to give me”
  • “This Land and this Home may also have opportunities for me in the form of challenges.”
  • “By treating my Home as intelligent, I may improve my experience with it.”
  • “When I honor the Land I live on and the Home I live in by connecting with them, flowing appreciation to them, by treating them as Partners, my feeling of being supported by them will increase.”

Note how that exercise felt to you–and please share that with me.  I remember how skeptical I felt when I first heard these ideas, so you won’t offend me if they still feel weird to you.  I just ask that you allow yourself to experiement with them, to discover if they have a positive effect on your partnership with your space.