Judgement and Desire Cannot Live In The Same Space

April_post2What is your relationship with what you desire?  Are you in a state of joyful expectancy and fulfillment?

If you’re not enjoying your desires, it’s usually because you have some kind of judgement on them. 

Here are some of the judgements I’m familiar with:

• It’s not OK for me to want that.

• That’s too expensive.

• I’ll never be able to…..

• It’ll take me forever to get that done!

• I don’t deserve it.

If any of these judgments come up for you when you ponder your desires, you need to become more like a little child.  A baby doesn’t spin into mental judgments when she wants something.  She just wants it!  She allows herself to have the feeling of DESIRE! 

Have you ever watched a baby determined to master a new skill?  Maybe she wanted to sit, to crawl, to walk, or to pull herself up to the window so she can look out at the world. 

Her DESIRE is the very energy that fueled her action!

In how many ways can you be more like that baby?  If you want a de-cluttered, organized home, are you willing to keep trying, to keep falling down and getting back up again?  Are you willing to ask for any support you need so that you can master the new skills that will give you your goal?

De-Cluttering Your Closet

September is almost upon us. As we enjoy the last days of summer, here in the northern hemisphere, we know that soon the weather will change and most of us will bring winter clothes out of storage and store our summer clothes. Which is a perfect opportunity to edit our wardrobe and de-clutter our closet!

Our closets make a huge difference to our well-being. If our closet is a mess, we start our day in a frustrated search for what we’ll wear, instead of enjoying the process. My dear friend Annie Rohrbach has this to say, in her book Conscious Order about de-cluttering our closets: “A closet is more than a reminder of past sizes; it is a chronicle of personal history. Like a scrapbook, a closet serves as a visual reminder of emotional memories. Honor your process as you proceed.”

Indeed! Some of my clients have compared the process of clutter-clearing their closets to “an archeological dig.” Making a deliberate choice about whether or not you’ll keep certain clothes can also allow you to deliberately choose which memories and emotions to hold on to and which to release.

I recently helped one of my clients de-clutter her master closet. In only 5 hours, it went from mess to success! Before we started, items on the floor created a safety hazard and made it hard to find what was needed.

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In only 5 hours, my fearless client had released many items to donate and to sell, and we’d cleared the entire floor and tidied most of the shelves. She’ll continue to edit her wardrobe, and finish tidying up the shelves, but can you feel her joy and pride, now that she and her husband can find what they need?

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Here are some tips to help you clear the clutter out of your closet:

5 Questions to Help You Sort
Most of the time we only wear 20% of what’s hanging in our closet. Asking yourself these 5 Questions will help you sort out the 80% of items that are just clogging your space:

  • Do I wear this?
  • Do I love this?
  • Does it fit comfortably?
  • Is it flattering?
  • Is it in good repair?

If you answer yes to all 5, the item stays. If it needs repair or cleaning, ask: Is it really worth the time and money? If yes, separate those items and handle them later.

As you pack away your summer clothes, be sure you will actually wear those items again. If not, let them go! Don’t keep clothing more than 3 sizes smaller than you are now; by the time you lose the weight, those clothes will be out of style. (You’ll also deserve a new wardrobe!)

Donate or Sell?
For items you are not keeping, ask: who can I donate these items to? I don’t usually recommend hanging onto items in order to sell them later unless you know it will be worth the time and energy it will take to do that. Most of my clients prioritize their time, and getting unwanted items out of the house quickly in exchange for a tax deduction works best.

Organize to Edit
As you remove the clothes you aren’t keeping, organize the ones you are keeping by category and then by color.

Treat your clothes well; use good hangers. If you use all the same kind/color of hangers, your closet will feel more serene than if you use several varieties.

As you organize, use this tip to help you further edit your wardrobe: turn all your hangers in one direction. Then, after wearing each item, flip the hanger to hang in the other direction and keep it flipped. After six months, donate the untouched clothes.

How to Store Out of Season Clothing

Always store clothes in the main part of the home; avoid storing clothing in attics and basements. Clean garments before storing. Any stains (even ones you can’t see) will attract moth larvae and other insects, and will oxidize and become harder to clean.

NEVER use mothballs; the smell is almost impossible to remove and the chemicals are harmful to skin and eyes. Use bags of cedar and herbs. Don’t put cedar blocks directly on clothes (the oil might stain fabric); instead wrap them in acid-free tissue.

Take Advantage of this Back to School Savings!

So many of you emailed that you missed the deadline for the July Serenity Savings on my Mess to Success Home Study Program, so I decided to celebrate this Back to School season with a special new savings for you!

If you are a busy mom or a busy professional or entrepreneur whose home is clogged with clutter, please know that you’re not alone, and there IS help!

If you’ve ever:

  • tried a de-cluttering program that just didn’t work for you
  • started de-cluttering your home or office, but lost momentum and now feel frustrated that you can’t seem to find the time or energy to finish
  • tried everything you’re supposed to do to stem the tide of paper and projects flowing in, and get your files in order—but it’s still not working
  • felt worried that if you don’t handle the clutter soon, it will overrun your whole life
  • felt that your success is being held hostage by the stuff in your space then you probably wish that someone would just HAND you the easiest, simplest, and most direct way getting RID of YOUR CLUTTER!

If so, you need my Mess to Success: Banish the Shame, Release the Clutter and Create Your Vision for the Peaceful Home You Deserve Home Study Program, which supports the four aspects of any kind of transformation: emotional, physical, mental and spiritual.

In taking yourself through this 8 hour program, you’ll:

  • Transform your Emotional Relationship with your Home, releasing all resistance, shame and judgement!
  • Receive Strategies that up-level your Physical Clutter-Clearing sessions to Sensual, Sacred Acts of Creation!
  • Discover Your Mental Retrieval Strategy (how you remember where you’ve stored something) so you can align your organizing with your unique strategy!
  • Create a Spiritual Vision of the Peaceful Home you Deserve!

You’ll receive an 80 page workbook, and 5 downloadable audios that you can listen to over and over for inspiration, even while you are doing your de-cluttering! If you’ve tried other De-Cluttering Programs, that haven’t helped you on ALL levels, you’ll be so grateful you found this one!

When I delivered this program as a Teleseminar, the investment was $397, but as a home study program, it’s only $197. AND…. if you invest in yourself by September 15th, I’m offering a $100 Back-to-School Savings!

Which makes this program ONLY $97, until September 15th!

Just go to http://transformingspace.com/messtosuccess and type Back2School into the Coupon Code box for your $100 savings!